Today at Publix, I overheard a funny conversation between a couple and it made me wonder how different they were from each other. One wanted to go to pub and socialize, other wanted to sit at home and watch TV. They were different but were together (for now). And why not? We all have heard opposites attract. Right?
Lets give some food for thought here. Is similar tastes in food and movies important to hold a relationship together AND Can different hobbies and passion drive you apart?
Alright, I think opposites attract only in movies and fairy tales. An aristocrat and a commoner, An educated and a stupid, Beauty and the beast. Two totally dissimilar people celebrate their (extreme) differences and live happily ever after. True love wins! A perfect world.
Generally speaking, I think opposites don't attract at all. We like people who are like us. And the more we have in common with someone, the more likely we are to get along. Similar people are more likely to get together in the first place and are also more likely to find satisfaction in their relationship. Ofcourse, that doesn't mean they have to be identical, but I think successful couples share similar backgrounds, core values, beliefs, attitudes about what they like and dislike. Basically we fall for someone who is complementary to us and can help us learn, heal, and grow.
And why just couples, our best friends are someone with whom we share similar thinking. Perhaps, they are longest lasting because you don’t end up sniping at each other over things you hold dear. It’s much easier to get along with someone with whom you agree rather than someone that you don’t.
So, Don't you think "Opposites- Attract"rule, should be changed to "Likes- Attract" rule in the choice of long term partners or friendships?
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