Being a Home maker and a Mom, I have a lot in my plate. Manage money, house, my daughter and while juggling all these things, some balls inevitably goes out of my hands and I start to harbor resentment because he (as in, my husband) doesn’t have to do all of this. Must be nice to just worry about work! Hmmm...
It’s not a competition and I have an awesome, awesome husband. And yet, I know I still have the tendency to take things out on him when I feel overwhelmed. Its so simple to talk about how busy we are as moms and to laugh about the stereotype of the bumbling dad.
But when I stop to think about it, I have to admit that I tend to only focus on everything that I do as a mother and as a wife — and take for granted a lot of what my husband brings to the table as a partner. These are the things I remind myself, that I also know deep down are true:
I know that I’m the one who always cleans the house — but I don’t ever think about how he’s the only one to mow the lawn.
I know that I’m the only one who will notice when we’re running low on food items — but I don’t ever notice when he vacuums the entire house
I know I’m the only one who will remember when Aanya's next check-up is due — but I never think about the fact that he has always shoveled the driveway when it snowed.
I know I’m the only one who cooks and feed Aanya right now, but I also know that no one can make her belly-laugh like my husband can.
I may be the one who is in charge of all picture-taking in our family, but taking us out for an outing is my husband's department.
I may think I’m the only one with aching muscles at the end of the day, but I’m also always the first one to be offered a massage.
So I can’t speak for every wife, of course, but I know that the next time I want to start thinking about how much harder of a lot in life I have as a mother and a wife, I need to stop and consider all that my husband does behind the scenes first.
Because marriage is not a competition.
It’s not a competition and I have an awesome, awesome husband. And yet, I know I still have the tendency to take things out on him when I feel overwhelmed. Its so simple to talk about how busy we are as moms and to laugh about the stereotype of the bumbling dad.
But when I stop to think about it, I have to admit that I tend to only focus on everything that I do as a mother and as a wife — and take for granted a lot of what my husband brings to the table as a partner. These are the things I remind myself, that I also know deep down are true:
I know that I’m the one who always cleans the house — but I don’t ever think about how he’s the only one to mow the lawn.
I know that I’m the only one who will notice when we’re running low on food items — but I don’t ever notice when he vacuums the entire house
I know I’m the only one who will remember when Aanya's next check-up is due — but I never think about the fact that he has always shoveled the driveway when it snowed.
I know I’m the only one who cooks and feed Aanya right now, but I also know that no one can make her belly-laugh like my husband can.
I may be the one who is in charge of all picture-taking in our family, but taking us out for an outing is my husband's department.
I may think I’m the only one with aching muscles at the end of the day, but I’m also always the first one to be offered a massage.
So I can’t speak for every wife, of course, but I know that the next time I want to start thinking about how much harder of a lot in life I have as a mother and a wife, I need to stop and consider all that my husband does behind the scenes first.
Because marriage is not a competition.
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